Monday, August 31, 2009

Mindset Monday - Self Limiting Behaviors

These are notes based on the August 31 Mindset Monday show "Self limiting behaviors". The full show is archived for your listening pleasure at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/PeterPocklington

ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Thank You to my Million Mind March colleagues
from whom I learn on a daily basis. I am so privileged to be able to tap into the wisdom of such great people as Cathie Heath, Shana Prince, Jason Nagel, Ray Tamayo, Don Cox and the other purveyors of prosperity who are following the principle of achieving greatness through empowering others.

Thank You to my Leaders Club mentors, Andre Vatke, Molly Stevens, Diane Hochman and the other contributors to our Leaders Club Mastermind Group - who are sharing the teachings from their experiences and study to allow for the development of success patterns in those who we serve.

Thank You to John G. Miller
, whose simple book 'The Question Behind The Question' can provide you with additional food for thought about our attitudes and how they bring about beneficial change in ourselves and our environment when they are properly trained. This book is featured on our program page for today's show.

And thank you to Herr Gutenberg for his invention of the printing press - the best weapon of mass communication ever created. I love being able to take up a book and read the wisdom of people who were documenting character and situations between 1880 and 1930.

OVERCOMING SELF-LIMITING BEHAVIOR

I chose self-limiting over self-defeating because you are never defeated unless you quit on yourself
. However these behaviors do limit the size and the speed of our progress. So let's think about self-limiting behaviors, what kinds or categories there are and how we might overcome them.

All self-limiting behaviors have a single source - your attitude.
Your attitude towards yourself. Your attitude towards what you are doing. Try to make new habits - to squeeze out old ones. Every cell of our body, I have been given to understand, dies off and is replaced by a new one within 21 days. So it does not take long to do new things on a repeated basis to create a new habit - to replace self-limiting old ones.

We will consider 4 types - 4 categories.

* SELF-DOUBT

* PROCRASTINATION

* PERFECTIONISM

* NEGATIVE SELF-TALK



Any of these can destroy your motivation and leave you perpetually frustrated and discouraged.

Your goal should not be to get rid of these altogether, we are human beings. These are there but you have to recognize them. These become a problem when they undermine your success.

RE: SELF-DOUBT


Is this the doubt of your ability to get done what you want to get done. Why would that be? Do you have a lack of confidence in your ability? Or is it a lack of self-esteem? Is it rational? Is it irrational? Self doubt can stem from a fear of the future? or a fear of the unknown?

We all start from the same place. So instead of the doubt why not just - Stop - analyze - realize confidence increases with understanding - when you understand, do - build experience.. Address your doubts by obtaining experience. We are all on a path.

RE: PROCRASTINATION


Procrastination is a type of avoidance behavior - as a mechanism for 'coping' with anxiety. Why? Because doubt or pain are involved. We think we do won't accomplish the desired outcome. BEWARE: what you focus on becomes your reality!

Another reason people procrastinate in today's get it now, fast-paced, minute-rice society - is because we are overloaded . We have too many stimuli. Here prioritization helps. Improve your results by prioritizing important things that will have outcomes!

RE: PERFECTIONISM.


How can it be self-defeating? Because it constricts people, it doesn't allow them to grow. You can never be satisfied, which in itself is self-limiting.Perfectionism reduces innovation. You don't have to get it perfect. It creates a focus on yourself, where success depends on working with and for other people.

Perfectionism is a focus on your failure, where success hinges less on getting things right - it's more about how you handle things when you get them wrong.

In short, perfectionism keeps people from doing things. Instead focus on excellence. Challenge yourself to creativity, to innovation.

RE: NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.


This always starts with absolutes. Always. Never. "She's always wanting things". "I'll never get that done". Instead try to be specific about a specific action.

Negative self-talk is always based in the negative emotions: fear, jealousy, hatred, revenge, greed, anger or superstition. Limit your negative emotions and you will reduce your negative self-talk.

What can you do? Start each day with a positive exercise. A positive quote. A positive message. Do something for a relationship.

Best of all - take a positive action to be a positive influence on someone else during the day. You will get positive talk-backs to increase your positive self-talk.

Make an effort to find a solution instead of finding the blame for a problem.

Focus on the process and the effort rather than the reward. Find a way to build your motivation to where you enjoy what you do. Ask when things go well why they worked out so well. Then you will be equipped for it to happen more and more often.

Consider Relaxation Exercises. Although these can be scary because of the many stimuli to which we are exposed they can be very beneficial. De-stress and visualize success.

IN CONCLUSION:

There we have it. Be on the look-out for behaviors that are possibly preventing you from being all that you could be, slowing down the journey on the path to your success.

Lessen your self-doubt, understand why you procrastinate, strive for excellence before perfection, and change your self-talk.

Because you are so much more than you usually give yourself credit for.

The way I see it "God didn't create no duds"

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